By now I would expect that many of you have heard about the epidemic regarding the #yesallwomen and the #notallmen hashtags.
One individual tweeted something like this …….
" #notallmen are violent against women but #yesallwomen must navigate a world where those who are look the same as those who aren’t. "
I can’t decide if I am supportive of this statement or not. I fully believe it plays out in our society today, however it puts all the responsibility regarding abuse and harassment on women and their personal choices. It states that violence against women, perpetrated by men, should be expected to happen and women need to know how to navigate the world with this reality.
Sickening……… Men have a CHOICE to either inflict violence/harassment/sexism/ect upon women. They are fully capable of being functioning bodies with a brain and CHOOSING to either hurt or heal.
I then saw another that gave me some hope…..
"Started reading the #YesAllWomen tweets b/c I’ve got a daughter, but now I see I should be reading them b/c I’ve got two sons."
That’s just it folks. These tweets are not put out there to rag on men or be man haters. They are put out their for education. We need to educate our sons, husbands, brothers, about these happenings. We need to teach them that these things are wrong and shouldn’t be done to any woman or any human being.
The truth is many men don’t realize the daily harassment women face. It has become a “normal” part of our day to day lives. We have special classes for women to take to learn to defend themselves. We have products known as “rape whistles” in our society. (Which are usually pink)
I received one as a graduation present……
I also put all my keys in between my fingers when I walk alone at night just in case. I carry a whistle and mace with me at all times. If my hair is in a pony tail, I take it down. If I have my phone, I pretend to talk on it. I plan to get myself a pocket knife to carry around with me as well.
My point is the #NotAllMen hashtag doesn’t get it. We are not attacking all men. We are sharing our experiences that are all too real for #YesAllWomen .
And anyone, guy or girl, who says they don’t see that much violence or harassment against women, you may be participating in it.
I am not a “man hater”, but I am a proud feminist. Women face these realities day in and day out, and the fact is they continue to happen because of men.
#YesAllWomen understand these realities and no #NotAllMen will ever understand them.